It’s important to be yourself, instead of pretending to be the person people want you to be. I posted the above quote to our Instagram and Facebook this week, and it was reshared all over the place. In a perfect world, you would get along well with every person you meet, and everyone would like you. Sadly, that’s not the case. There is no way to be the person that everyone will get along with, it’s just not feasible. Because of this, you may have the tendency to please people and act differently around specific people, or those people cast judgments on you. While getting everyone to like you is a good feeling, doing this is not good for 1) your self-esteem and 2) accomplishing the goals you have for yourself.
In my instagram/facebook post I spoke about getting quiet time. Find quiet time. 10 minutes. Whether it be in the shower, 10 mins before you get out of your car into the house, in a random parking lot, in your backyard, on the toilet 🚽, laying in bed before you start the day, or before you go to sleep at night. Find 10 minutes of quiet. No phone, no interruptions. This silence offers time for self-reflection. It’ll be fuel for your body and mind. It’ll help you turn down noise and increase your inner voice of what matters most.
We start to get confused when we don’t listen to our inner voice and listen to the voices of others. Trust yourself. Find quiet time to listen to your own thoughts for 10 mins a day. Don’t be so busy that you can’t find 10 mins.
Learning how to be your authentic self is an essential part of building meaningful relationships, and it can happen when your actions, words and behaviors consistently match your identity at your core. When you begin being wholly authentic, you will clarify the life you most want.
When being genuine with yourself and others, you can comfortably make decisions that will help you to build the life you most want and align with your core values and true identity. Quiet the noise and listen to your inner voice, it’ll guide you. You will only be able to hone in on it when you practice quiet time.